Wednesday, October 5, 2011

8 Things You Should Never Say to Employees

Your employees constantly watch you.  Say the wrong thing, no matter how unintentionally, and at the very least you send the wrong message.  Sometimes what you say can even destroy employee morale.

Here are 8 things a good leader should never say to employees:

  1. "I'm in charge, so this is what we're going to do." Dealing with different opinions or even open dissent is challenging for any leader and can make you feel defensive and insecure.  When that happens you might be tempted to fall back on the golden rule:  She who has the gold makes the rules.  Don't.  Everyone knows you're in charge; saying you are instantly destroys any feelings of collaboration, teamwork, and esprit de corps.  When you can't back up a decision with data or logic, possibly that decision isn't the right decision.  Don't be afraid to back down and be wrong.  Employees respect you even more when you admit you make a mistake.
  2. "I have a great opportunity for you." No, you don't; you just want the employee to agree to take on additional work or the project no one wants.  If you say, "Mary, next week I'm assigning you to work on a new project with our best customer," she immediately knows it's a great opportunity.  If you say, "Mary, I have a great opportunity for you; next week I'm assigning you to sort out the problems in our warehouse," she knows she just got stuck with a less-than-plum assignment.  Any opportunity that really is great requires no preface or setup.  Don't sell.
  3. "Man, this has been a long day.  I'll see you guys.  It's time for me to get out of here." No employee wants to feel your pain. From your perspective, running a business can be stressful, draining, and overwhelming.  From the employee's perspective you have it made because you make all the rules.  Don't expect employee empathy; instead talk about how today was challenging and everyone pulled together, or how you really appreciate that employee's help.
  4. "Hey, that's a great idea — and if we do it this way…" As BNET colleagues Kelly and Marshall Goldsmith note, successful people often try too hard to add value.  (Unsuccessful people do too, by the way.)  You may be able to improve an employee's idea and lay out a specific path for implementation, but in the process you kill their enthusiasm.  Instead, say, "Hey, that's a great idea," then ask questions:  How they came up with the idea, the data or reasoning they used, how they think the idea should be implemented, etc.  In the process the employee may identify small tweaks on her own, and if not you can gently guide him in the right direction.  The best ideas, from an employee's point of view, are not your ideas.  The best ideas are always their ideas, and rightfully so.  Make sure employees' ideas stay their ideas, and everyone benefits.
  5. "Sure, I'll be happy to talk to your brother about a job." The smaller the company the less you can afford interpersonal problems, especially those created by cliques and "alliances."  (Doesn't running a small business sometimes feel like an episode of "Survivor"?)  There are certainly exceptions to the rule, but think carefully before you hire an employee's family member.  Blood is always thicker than business.
  6. "No." Actually, "no" can be okay — as long as it is always followed with an explanation.  Still, better choices are "I don't think we can, and here's why…" or "I would like to, but here's why we can't…" or "That sounds like a great idea, but we'll need to do a couple of things first…"  Explain, explain, explain: As a leader, explaining is near the top of your job description.
  7. "I can't wait to go to Cancun next week." Don't assume your employees will be inspired by and hope to emulate your success. They won't.  Leave your Porsche in the garage.  I've consulted for a number of family-run businesses, and in every instance (sometimes when I was on-site less than a day), at least one employee spoke of resenting how "good" the owners have it — at the expense of underpaid employees.  Is resenting your success, even if you don't flaunt it, fair?  No.  Is it a real issue for employees?  Absolutely.
  8. "We." This one is conditional:  Use "we" when it fits, but never use the royal "we."  Employees are aware there is no "I" in team, but they know when you are paying lip service to "we."  Just as it's incredibly obvious to employees when you take an insincere, obligatory tour to "check in" and show how much you seem to care, it's just as obvious when you say "we" just because you think you should.  Build a real sense of teamwork first and using "we" comes naturally.  Teamwork actions speak much louder than any theoretically inclusive words.

I know there are plenty more.  Feel free to share things on your "do not say" list — and things you wish had never been said to you.

Thanks to Jeff Haden / BNet / CBS Interactive
http://www.bnet.com/blog/small-biz-advice/8-things-you-should-never-say-to-employees/1386?tag=blog-moreFromLeft

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